Haven't been on in a while, busy time of year for me, with all of the outdoor activites I enjoy. Plus my new acquisition of a horse.
I get those sadness periods as well, I think the hardest for me is allowing loneliness to sink in, it doesn't happen that often anymore, but I try hard to work out of them by getting myself busy. Things were going well with a "friend" I have been dating, but she suddenly backed off in the past few weeks. Not quite sure of the reason, but one of the interesting things she did say to me was, "I just need some space to allow the dust to settle." That one struck me hard as it was the exact same thing my WAS would say. I told her that and we laughed about it.
I just went through the anniversary thing as well. I choose to do nothing. No communication at all, as there was no need to. The only person I brought it up with, was my dating friend, we were talking on the phone, and something she said reminded me that it was my wedding anniversary, so I told her what day it was and she said "Happy Anniversary", to which i responded "Gee thanks" and that was about the hi-light of that day and the only thought I really had about it.
I decided recently to try and be more friendly with W at only face to face meetings every other week during S8 exchange. Somewhat prompted by conversations w/ my dating friend and thing she has said about her LBS. Gave it good try this past weekend, it's hard for me to make eye contact w/ W, and she pointed that out to me. I told her I was trying, but it was very difficult, hopefully w/ time I'll be able to do that.
Me: 41 W: 38 Son7 M 13 years 3/07 Bomb "This marriage isn't working for me anymore" S 5/26/07 Thread
