During my D sitch, H stayed in the house because he was going to be deployed for a year and wanted to stay w/ the boys for the time he had left.
Your W needs to realize that staying in the same house IS NOT (in my opinion) going to make things easier for anyone. In the long run, it will probably become uncomfortable, etc. for you & W. There will be tension and probably more arguments than before.
Also, this then brings the children into it, as she wants to tell them what is going on, yet stay living together. The kids will be absolutely confused about this.
Maybe you could somehow respond w/ something along the lines of: I want to work our M out. If we are going to actually get to the point of telling the children, then you need to actually move out. If you want a separation, then that's what it needs to be.
In most cases, I feel, an actual separation may lend a lot of light to the sitch for her to realize what she is going to lose. If she stays in the house and everything stays the same (as you said, you guys have been living like this for the past 6 yrs anyway), she has no reason to change anything.
Last edited by RedHeadWife; 10/24/0712:19 PM.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
