Quoting NOPkins: She needs me to be loving and attentive. I want to be. Now she knows that I need her (more than she was aware) physically. She was, as I suspected, feeling terribly inadequate sexually. She thought that I needed a "wild woman" or for her to be the equivalent of a "monogamous nymphomaniac" and had no idea how to proceed. Also the thought of having to "act" was very uncomfortable for her. I explained to her that all I ever wanted was my lover and friend back. This is the truth.
(I think I just fell in love.) That level of understanding that you express there would just open all kinds of doors and willingness and desire to please and I can't tell you what else! That feeling of inadequacy and failure is awful. To have a spouse understand that makes it 300% better. Go you!
