Separated and W has a BF.

[RedHeadWife]

It's very hard, Jar, and we know that. You just need to figure out what is going to bring you the results you want. How you need to deal w/ her, treat her, treat yourself in the meantime.

I don't think she's trying to *replace* you. I think she's going through at least a mini MLC where she wants to be single, young, etc. again. She's pushing 30, right? Like I've said before, though, she's going to figure out that the grass is not greener. She's going to figure out that she has everything she should want & need in you & your D's.

It was ironic last night -- when I said my prayers as I went to bed, all the things I was so very thankful for. Almost a year ago, when H dropped the D bomb, these very same things were the things that seemed to be dragging me down. I honestly didn't know who was I was anymore or what I wanted anymore and this had been building up for YEARS.

She's just not to that point yet -- where she realizes that she has a wonderful life w/ you and your D's and that she should be grateful that she has that. I look around (not even just here) and see what *could be* and wonder "what the H*LL was I thinking," but I think that's just it, we get so wrapped up in our unhappiness, thinking that we want something else, that we're not thinking.