Hi lwb. Sorry to hear H seems to be back in contact w/ OW. It will die a natural death eventualy. As for the cell phones, I think ut us an example of fence sitting. My H has done this too. One moment, they are sure they are still in the primary R and act accordingly. Then they are back to spewing anger and hate. Your H is just confused a bit, which is better than "knowing" he wants out.

Did you let him order the cell for you?

Me29
H33
D9 months
S2
S9(previous R)
Sep 8-19-07
I file 11-5-07
H home (Retro) 2-15-08
"Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9