When they repeat behaviour that upset us when the A happened we are bound to get upset. I am lucky that my H grasped quite quickly that this was the case and made great efforts to ensure that he thought about what reaction his actions would cause. It was something we talked about first though and I don't know if you have explained this to your H. If he appears sincere in reconciling it might be worth mentioning things that act as flsah poits / triggers. You can always laugh and say, (with your fingers crossed), that you know it is not his fault that these are triggers but it would really help if he was able to bear them in mind. I expect he doesn't realise that when he is either late phoning or doesn't phone at all it has such a bad effect on you because it knocks your confidence.
Sometimes it is better to communicate things rather than hope the other S will realise. I am terrible at expecting my H to 'know' things that I think are obvious. He then goes around oblivious to why I get mad!!!
You are doing so well and are such a good support to others.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
