I understand. That's why I wrote this book. Since you write that your wife is reading it, I wonder what she'll think. I hope she develops more empathy and becomes more affectionate.
But in the mean time, you sound angry. Of course you're angry, I know that. But if your anger comes through during your discussions about sex, she will become defensive. I'm sure that has happened many, many times. What I'm not sure about is whether you've told her with an open heart, allowing yourself to really be vulnerable, what feeling rejected is like for you. Have you told her about what it's like to not feel wanted or loved? Has she seen your sadness and hurt? I know she's seen your anger and disappointment, but that's not what I'm talking about here.
Ask her if she's willing to discuss what she's read in the book. If she "writes it off" don't argue, just tell her that you feel disappointed and end the discussion. That will surprise her because she will expect you to attack her. Try this and keep posting. Michele
