I almost feel like he wants out but feels trapped by the kid's. Deep down he don't want to be the bad guy and walk away. I think he tries to push to get me to leave. I may be wrong but that's how I feel anyway.
I'll one up you. H has said this to me "I am trapped because of our kids". All that you said above, I am living as well.
trying, I bet your hair looks beautiful. Similar again, H doesn't like short hair but OW cut her hair this summer and its above her chin. Mine is past my shoulders.
HUGS, I know how you felt when H gave you that uninterested look about your hair. Does not feel good.