Jar, I think that is the standard reply that everything is our fault. We all know that isn't true. Yes, we own part of the problems, but certainly not all of them. Anything that we do right now while trying to regain our family couldn't even come close to the the trauma they have caused the family.
Take care of yourself and I believe going dark is the way to go.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
