Is it at all possible that the two of you can sit down and say, "okay you pay this bill, I'll pay that one...." sort of thing?
My H who has been gone for over a year took it upon himself to pay all of the bills with the exception of my cell, internet, home phone, and groceries.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19