I can completely relate to children making the time for the marriage scarce. But it really is an absolute requirement to make time - or people do drift... not necessarily to this degree, or in this direction, but the relationship will suffer. We just have to make time for both aspects of life, and do the best we can without neglecting one or the other. So, just had a call from my W. I didn't make it to the gym, where we normally cross paths at lunch, so she gave me a call. In the call, she mentions she just saw my best friend walking (he has full knowledge of the situation, and helped me out as far as discovery). She is obviously down about it.. I can't decide what I'm supposed to do. Not sure if she is upset by seeing him for the fact that he would be involved in 'investigation', or the fact that someone else knows the dirty little secret. My first instict is to comfort her, and help her deal with it, but my heart wants to say "deal with it, the only thing he did wrong was be there for me - he didn't force you to get involved with OM". Like I said earlier, I feel like I have to walk lightly, and make try to make things better even though I've really done nothing wrong by comparison. Uggggh.
