Sounds like you guys are moving to a different place and I get the sense there is some tension lifted?
Amen. I think we're getting there. You will, too.
Originally Posted By: CVA
Talking to her is literally like bashing my head against the wall, even for simple stuff.
So she never *ever* brings anything up, not about plans for a split, filing, nothing? Ever?
Originally Posted By: CVA
it is really subconscious as much as my conscious mind wants to DB and all that, it is happening in the back of my mind, "dont respond to that BS, it wont do any good CVA" You know what I mean?
Well, that voice sounds wise, and not contrary to DBing. Do you see a conflict?
Originally Posted By: CVA
The more that happens the more it will happen.
Ommmmm.
Originally Posted By: CVA
it just "happens" vs. a concerted wake up call of a 180, me moving out, whatever. Subtle vs. a Hammer.
Choosing not to respond to provocation doesn't just happen. Maybe instead of thinking, "I'm not going to respond to that because not responding will help my R," you're thinking, "I'm not going to respond to that because there's no point," but the action is the same. The intention may lend the action a subtle flavor; I don't know.
Originally Posted By: CVA
I have decided to go for the "ready to move in" version as I and my colleagues concluded my time is better spent focusing on work than redoing a house.
That sounds like a good reason. Do you think focusing on work will get you to a better place than enjoying working on the house would?
Originally Posted By: CVA
Whew Puddle, my fingers are now officially worn out!
I'm certainly impressed. I'll look forward to hearing about the email.
