I bring up something nice. either something i'd like to offer her as a gift, or a suggestion on something fun to do., or...
- she replies with, "[decline], I'm still harboring a lot of anger at you, from [yesterday/last week/last month]". So, "no". with implications to me of, "and I'll never do anything ELSE that you would like either.. i have no desire to forgive or forget this incident"
Well, again I think it is her control over you. She knows you will buckle down and she can hurt you that way. I think that even if you are seen as kind of pushy in our posts......you are a nice guy! Maybe too nice for your own good. Gee whiz, I never thought I would say that. But, sad to say, some men are too good for their own good and some women do not know how to appreciate a good man. Like I said before, what yo have done has not worked, so try a 180.
After you tell me briefly the stitch behind the S, then I may change my mind, but I wonder if you changed you attentive ways if she might get her eyes opened. If she is sure that you do not want a D and you bend of backward to "please" her and hopefully keep her happy .....and for gosh sakes hope she doesn't get mad about anything....then, sweetie, she has got it made in the shade.
Listen, I have known females that used this form of blackmail on their parents, friends, children, and most of all their H. It is awful the way people cater to them b/c they don't want to endure their wrath. Some men do the same thing.....just with a little different approach or technique. I hate it! Sometimes, these type of people end up without anyone b/c they burn everybody out. People finally get enough and give up on them since nothing will please them except having their own way about everything in life. Of course, that is impossible.......so some things can't be controlled. Have you ever seen her that way with others and other situations in life....or is it just with you? That would be interesting to know.
What about the LRT? Have you thought about that, or....are you afraid to risk it? I have a feeling that you are holding on to the M so tightly that you are afraid to risk her wrath and afaid she will file for D. Am I right?
(((DomR))) I hate this for you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
