He's on Match.com

[Trixi]

Regarding "telling" him about getting in shape; actually probably a bad idea. In the past 12.5 years, I have joined (and quit) gyms several times, with years of not going in between. He has a membership to a gym thru his company, but he doesn't go to that and he is a little doughy in the middle, so it's not like he is Mr Universe.

I really do hate it. I wish I could say "well, I liked it once I got there" or "I felt great afterwards" or something-- but no, I just hated it. I have also tried step classes and spinning classes, didn't like that. I have two left feet and am not quick at picking up things that have to do with "put your left foot here and do this with your right hand". yes, I am discouraged right now.

Wow- a light bulb just went off in my head. One of his complaints is that I 'start things' and then quit. He had mentioned a couple craft things and a couple story ideas; regarding the crafts- I actually work on a craft until I think I have it down and then move onto the next thing. (He had pointed out all the different craft supplies.) For me, as a crafter/dabbler, I will go back and pick up things later-but I do go thru an initial 'passionate' stage of learning.

Anyway, I wonder if he had also lumped gyms into that, but didn't want to bring it up...

If he told me he was going to quit smoking, I would probably out loud say "great, I support you, etc" but in my head I would probably think "uh huh. just like the last 10 times you "quit". I'll believe it when I see it. I sure hope you do it this time."

Maybe we need a month or two of no contact (visually) so I can get on the ball, lose some weight and shape up and the difference would be obvious. Of course, I guess I would be running the risk that he would find some hottie in the meantime, schtup her and ruin our fidelity; but that could happen whether i see him or not.