The ideas you have all sound good. I am mystified by your H's behavior. I know it is flat out avoidance. But I can't understand what he thinks he's gaining. Do you feel comfortable discussing the issue with your Post session leaders? Maybe they could help you two form a plan for how to deal with the problem.
hmmm...I've been mulling this over. I don't know. H brought it all up again last night. I'm pretty much at the point of avoiding the topic. I have nothing left to say about it, really. He said something about giving his 40 days notice by the end of this week, which means by January he may have the opportunity to teach elsewhere or to sub. He also mentioned hating the idea of subbing or not having the second income - this worries him - and I get that - and to that I responded, I'd rather live on the curb then have you work where you work now. "that bad, huh?" was his response. I know this is the same story I've been telling for weeks. There must be a way for me to affect change here - a 180 perhaps. Mulling it over for days on end is only making me cranky. I may start to pour on the love at home, extra thick, and see what happens. Perhaps act as if he already quit his job??? Maybe I should define what I think our R would look like if I knew he was no longer working there - or more definitively what MY actions would be - and then beginning to act that way- that might help all the way around. It's worth a shot - hmmm....something new and positive to mull over!
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
