Lets try thing again!!!!

[ediemarie]

((((Limbo))) BTDT! You know all that I have gone through - I feel your pain. This stuff ebbs and flows. It will get good again, it will get worse again, but what matters is how you are going to handle it. I certainly don't have it all figured out - my thread is proof enough of that - but I know that I never truly know what my H is thinking and feeling. I find that I always assume the worst with him and that he wants someone other than me, when according to him that isn't how he feels and more accurately he has felt rejected by me. And I can see how he would have felt that in the past. I think Saffie is right in that you are going to have to find a way to make this work - it's a process. He needs to feel accepted by you before he can open up and share with you and likewise you need to feel accepted by him. I don't know the best way for you to communicate that to him - but you might. He wouldn't have gone to Retro if he didn't care.
Hang in there! All is not lost.