Whenever I initiate contact, I wind up shooting myself in the foot. I get answers I'm not ready to hear and the R gets pushed in the wrong direction, closer towards D.
Lately, I've been seeing more of the alien, despite being nice and trying to re-establish some kind of amicable relationship with H. I'm doing my best to stay friendly when he spews (his version, anyway) in the hopes of killing him with kindness - and with some luck, having him take his anger and frustration out on ogre, as suggested above.
It's difficult, but will keep it up for a while to see if any changes come about in the long run.
M: 33 MLC/WAH: 33 M 6 yrs, together 12 2 kids: 5,2 Bomb #1: 4/06 - "I don't love you anymore", almost S Bomb #2: 7/06 - EA/PA since late 05, kicked H out/S Bomb #3: 1/07 - "No longer have any feelings for you. It's over.", living w/OW, no talk of D