There and Back, #10

[mkultra]

I don't think you are delusional. It sounds to me like you have real hope in saving your marriage. But more importantly you will be happy either way. Don't ever give up. Just focus on your Northern Star and even if you do move on without him you will always know you neverthrew him away and he will know it too. It reminds me of when Lorelei told Luke she wanted a "middle" and he didn't get it at that time. Your H just does not get it at this time because he has messed up his life so badly. The pressure is immense in our culture. If we had to deal with this in Mexico or Japan, I bet the husband would still be home and just keep the mistress on the side. Because of our monagamy myths, we just throw the baby out with the bathwater. You have so much to work with. Your H respects you and has seen that you support him. You are a wonderful wife and mother. He will always know that in his heart.