Husband, I would love any advice you have on the addressing the mood swings or how to better control them. I can relate - music especially, can impact you drastically and immediately. Please post, or email me anything you think would be helpful.

Sue, thanks for checking in - yes, there *are* amazing people on this board, I've seen it in other posts, and now feeling it in my own. I guess my urge to snoop is to see if she is being honest about wanting to start fresh, that it IS over, that she is committed to this. After all, honesty has not been her strong suit for the last several months. I do feel like I am in a good spot, and I wish you all to be there too. I just want to know that it is all real, I will not be played for the fool again - I couldn't handle it - I'd rather take the full impact now. But again, snooping will not help this, will undoubtedly only drive us further apart - even though I feel like it is 100% justified, and that should be clear.. after all, we are only wanting to find the problem(s), and try to start making it better.

The funny/wierd (and perhaps good) thing about all of this, is I will admit we had drifted apart a bit (does not justify A), but all of this coming up, has really made me realize I DO love my W, possibly more than I realized before - I just want us both to be at that same level.

Thanks again everyone
B