Update: I went ahead and had a phone coaching session with Laurie. She was very helpful and encouraged me to keep doing what I was doing as far as not pressuring W, not talking about marriage and acting positive and / or happy. She was able to see some things that I had not considered regarding W's behavior towards me. All in all I would recommend phone coaching as it helps to clearly define your goals, gain a different perspective and tweak certain behaviors increasing one's chances of success of busting a D.
An important point that Laurie made was that so often we tend to concentrate on what our spouses HAVE DONE as opposed to what they HAVE'NT DONE. In my case she stressed that W has not filed D papers although they are signed nor has she mentioned D either. Those inactions are positive signs that W has not resigned herself to a D. Laurie also stated the fact that I did not go balistic when a guy answered the door demonstrated to W that I had changed for the better. You never know when you will be tested. Although I know that there are no gurantees, I was encouraged by that insight. I believe that patience is the fuel that feeds the fire of D busting. Just my thoughts. Stay tuned I am sure there is more to come....
