22 years and no communication

[cat03]

would he go to counceling? an obvious question, but I wonder if you guys considered it. If he doesn't want to go you would benefit greatly if you go, seems there is a lot of bad habits to break.

I've realized the main reasons my M's communication went downhill was because I'd use sarcasm a lot, if there was 2 ways a sentence could be interpret I'd choose the offending version (always think the best, give the benefit of the doubt), was too quick to defend myself and jump up inmediatly when I didnt' agree with my H.. which lead to him just bottleing everything up and just exploding one good ol' day.
Body language and how loud you speak also play a big part, you could be saying the right thing but if you are doing it through clenched teeth it comes out the wrong way.