w2s, great words of wisdom! Thank you! I understand it needs to be hard for it to be better and H is really trying hard. I feel it, I see it...at first I think he was trying to impress but now I think he truly is doing things because he wants to. I always felt we had an extremely strong bond...maybe its that foundation that has helped for us to reconcile. thanks again for all the great words!! I can always count on all of you...