Deadman, Sorry about your discoveries, I know it feels like another kick in the gut BUT your W is no loner yours and she will see who she chooses, you must accept this. If you feel because of your discoveries that you want to stop being the person you were before towards her then you are punishing her and being vengeful, understandably. Where you only doing the things you were doing previously to win her back? I would continue to do what you have been doing if you feel that is what a good person would do, regardless of her dating activities. Now, if you feel that it would be helpful to the sitch to change your strategy then it is appropriate to do so BUt don't change due to a need to inflict some kind of pain, punishment or revenge...it's not the way to go! Again, I understand and know how much all this must hurt. Take care of you right now!
