I just can't stop putting my foot in my mouth but last week his mom was so supportive of me and even sent me this letter of how she loved me and wanted it to work. Then Sunday when she saw him she called me afterward and was very cold to me. I could tell something was wrong but she said i was "reading into it" well, I have found that her mood towards me goes with his mood towards me and she is as mentally unstable as he is. I probably shouldn't have but I sent the following email to her and now I intend to just detach and not talk to any of his family for now.


MIL,

H said he told you on Sunday that he has decided to stay with OW. I could tell something was wrong Sunday when you called but wasn't sure what it was. It seems like your attitude towards me goes with H's decisions and that is fine. I have done nothing but try to love and support him and if this is his decision then so be it. The kids and I will survive just as his XWIFE and the kids did. I will not file for divorce as I will not be the one to terminate our children's family. If you all feel this is the best, then while I can not understand the decision to support him, I will not ask you not to. I know as a parent you love your child nomatter what but I also know that there is such a thing as tough love and sometimes it is a parents job to let their child know when they are making a huge mistake. It seems H's mistakes have always been brushed under the rug and covered up. Well I hope you enjoy the new grandbaby and maybe he will actually be there for this one until it is 18. Take care and know I love you I just can't go on chatting like we are family because the truth is that the minute he said he wanted OW you were dining out with her parents, letting her call you mom, and taking her in like she is your own only 2 weeks after he left me. It has been made very easy for him to destroy the hearts of his 7 kids and wife. Like XWIFE said he has not only torn one family of SS and SD's up but now two. It is just sad. At what point will he be held accountable. There is no need to reply I don't intend to get into a debate or argument with you. I just needed to say what I felt on my heart. I don't even have anger, only hurt for the way I have been betrayed.

Love you and take care of dad,

Last edited by Amy; 10/23/07 01:47 PM.

M 32 H 39
SS 15, SD 12, S11, S9, D7, D6, D4
E/A 02/06 WAS 03/06 RH 05/06
On 07/07 told me he wants to leave again.
On 08/11/07 Walked out again.

People say "When God closes a door he opens a window." They forget to tell you "It is hell in the hallway!"