I don't think you can tell him not to contact someone - that's like showing a red rag to a bull - but I do think you can ask him why he has a need to be in contact with this woman? Explore the subject that way and see what his reply is. If he has this need to talk to others then why? What is not satisfying him enough that you don't fill that gap for him. maybe he is just really sociable. My H wouldn't be that friendly with another woman unless something was going on - I know that - but not all men are the same. Maybe he is frightened of getting older and not being attractive to women anymore, maybe if she is an old friend she reminds him of when he was young and that makes him feel nice. If he isn't wanting any R with this woman and cares about your M then he should be willing to explore these issues.
It might also be worth telling him - if he doesn't know - how many M's are ruined by Friends Reunited and that there are sites out there that are designed to help people split others up so that they can get with them again, (old flames etc), which is why this sort of thing is quite frightening. saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
