HI Mwel I know what you mean. I asked mine yesterday what he did for the day and he told me he went to a corn maze and to get pumpkins with the OW. Why do we ask? I wish I had not but I did and he said that. Of course he made it sound like a group of them went but still he had no child and went with her. What the ..... It does hurt and I have no idea why we do it.
HI Mwel I know what you mean. I asked mine yesterday what he did for the day and he told me he went to a corn maze and to get pumpkins with the OW. Why do we ask? I wish I had not but I did and he said that. Of course he made it sound like a group of them went but still he had no child and went with her. What the ..... It does hurt and I have no idea why we do it.
well, I think I just need to change my profile also. It's funny you know, when you think you're in love and your spouse says they love you, it's like nothing can stop you..then when you find yourself unloved and alone nothing can get you going. Funny creatures we are.. Lissie, did you have a good weekend??
Mwel you have hit the nail on the head. It is tough to be alone and feel unloved. But we are great people and they just do not see it now but someday they will be kicking themselves for what they have done to us.
My weekend was good up until the slip up last night but I am trying to just get past that. I just have to stop asking questions about what he is doing since I really do not want to know about her and him. He has only mentioned her for this weekend and made it out to be a group thing so not sure what is up with that yet but we shall see I guess
Mwel you have hit the nail on the head. It is tough to be alone and feel unloved. But we are great people and they just do not see it now but someday they will be kicking themselves for what they have done to us.
My weekend was good up until the slip up last night but I am trying to just get past that. I just have to stop asking questions about what he is doing since I really do not want to know about her and him. He has only mentioned her for this weekend and made it out to be a group thing so not sure what is up with that yet but we shall see I guess
i agree, we are great people and sometimes I wish that my W would see that and see what she is leaving, I know the same probably goes for you with your H. Who know's maybe our situation will turn out like just_me's...divorce and then remarry our Ex. I like to think that would happen cause no matter what she has done, I can learn to forgive. But for now, I just realized that I need to be happy with me and for me. Even thought I will never give up hope, I will continue to work on me and change for the better. Im glad your weekend was good until that time. Yeah I know, we want to know what they have been doing and when they tell you, you wished you wouldn't have asked. Human nature I guess.
I do have one question..I would like to ask her for the rings back, one becuase I do not want her to pawn them in, maybe someday she will change her mind and want me back and lastly Im still paying on them. Should I ask for them back or should I let her keep them to remember what she left? I personally do not think that she will think of me or even look at them, I think that she will just pawn them in...should I ask for them back?
I am hopefully that things will turn around for us but it gets harder the longer the time goes by but supposedly it is that time that makes them want us back. I find that strange because at times due to all of this time apart I am questioning whether I want him back but this same time will make him want to come back. It is quite the dilemna.
The ring question now that is a tough one. I really do not know what to say on that one so hopefully someone else will have some advice for you on that one. Did you sign the papers? Maybe that could be a stipulation that she gives you back the rings especially if you are still paying for them. I am assuming she is not wearing them anymore correct. I still have mine on. Have you talked with a lawyer at all? Maybe they could help you. I wish I could but I really do not know on this one.
I am hopefully that things will turn around for us but it gets harder the longer the time goes by but supposedly it is that time that makes them want us back. I find that strange because at times due to all of this time apart I am questioning whether I want him back but this same time will make him want to come back. It is quite the dilemna.
The ring question now that is a tough one. I really do not know what to say on that one so hopefully someone else will have some advice for you on that one. Did you sign the papers? Maybe that could be a stipulation that she gives you back the rings especially if you are still paying for them. I am assuming she is not wearing them anymore correct. I still have mine on. Have you talked with a lawyer at all? Maybe they could help you. I wish I could but I really do not know on this one.
I totally agree with you on the dilemna, its like damned if you do and damned if you dont. The last time I asked her if she wore the rings, she said yes. But now I do not think she has them on b/c of the single status on myspace. I still wear mine also. No I have not signed anything, she hasnt even filed for them yet. She is filing them sometime next month. I hope that someone will give me some advise on the rings....
I do have one question..I would like to ask her for the rings back, one becuase I do not want her to pawn them in, maybe someday she will change her mind and want me back and lastly Im still paying on them. Should I ask for them back or should I let her keep them to remember what she left? I personally do not think that she will think of me or even look at them, I think that she will just pawn them in...should I ask for them back?
Didn't you give them to her? Aren't they hers? I'm a hypocrit, but I would say that you shouldn't ask for them. Are you willing to give your ring to her?
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
Didn't you give them to her? Aren't they hers? I'm a hypocrit, but I would say that you shouldn't ask for them. Are you willing to give your ring to her?
Yes, I did give them to her as a commitment to me, now that she doesn't want to honor that commitment. Yes, I am willing to take off my ring and give it to her.
