LWB- Sounds like we both had equally enjoyable summers. I too am sorry you are here, but thank you for the response. The privacy thing is wierd. I still feel like I'm being unfair about what all I expect there, but at the same time, I don't think she realizes the magnitude of openness and accountability that this will require. I'm sure snooping does nothing to 'win' the spouse back, and even hurts the chances; I guess once I feel I have complete honesty, maybe that urge will fade. But, like Trying said, I have nothing to hide, she could dig through anything of mine she wants.
I am resolved to getting back to the Dad I was. Go see the counsellor, and see where things are headed. We have a family trip this weekend so we'll se how that goes as well.
