I know the "hate" you feel, but you (and I) have to get beyond that. It's tough to realize that the person you thought you'd love forever is "lost" somewhere. I think I am at my best when I feel that it IS over and I start to look beyond this situation to what I will have to do when I get home. I've heard this advice before, acting "As if" it is over, but keeping the door open. It's part of the whole "detaching" process, but is so much easier siad than done.
We lose more than a spouse, however. We lose a family, no matter how good of a spin others try and put on it.why these WASs perform "Mother/Father-ectomies" becasue they are not "satisfied" is beyond me. I always thought "Family over self", but htey don't. Hang in there.
