You already know this but you pushed him for an R/M "answer" before he was ready to give one. You asking had very little to do with the house, I'm guessing. (and he saw it, too).
DETACH.. please, focus on this. Just for a week even.. focus on this.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread