And now the challenging part, that many may disagree with. I'm going for the separation. No resisting there. It may bite me in the ass in the end but I'm going to sacrifice the battle to win the war. Why? This isn't the end. She needs time and space to get over her resentment. I will give it to her. I think this will work to my advantage in several ways. First, it will clearly demonstrate that I'm not needy. Second, by doing this and still being confident and happy she will see that I am truly a different person. Finally, in order for us to have a future together she must choose me. In order for her to make that choice, I have to let her go. Otherwise she is just sticking around due to circumstances and not her choice. As my therapist said, it's not so much a matter of opening the cage door as it is taking the cage away.
If you have some extra courage, I really would love it if you could mail me some. This is what I have wanted to do forever, but I am terrified.
Best of luck. I love where your head and mind are, it sounds like you are fitting yourself into her puzzle. This is fantastic.
