I think you are onto something and you really do sound confident. Its all about what works and what does not you have found something that works so keep it up. Whenever she beats you down in the future come back and read this post to regain this positive attitude.
Me - 34 W - 33 S - 5 D - 4 M - 14 years Bomb 1 Dec 06 Bomb 2 Aug 07 Separated - Aug 07 WAW Renting own place - Dec 07