Agreed. You cant win. For now, forget about bringing up something nice, getting her gifts, or talking of fun things to do. They all will be percieved as controling. Like my WAW, she sounds like she suppressed anger for a lot of years and now is enjoying the power of letting you have it.
Give her some space. If she is ever going to open back up to you, it will have to be on her terms, on her timetable, and by her initiation.
Be strong
Me-46;W-42 Together 23 yrs Married 16 S11 S8 S6 02/10/03 Her 1st affair 10/01/06 Sep Bomb 01/01/07 Sep Begins 03/09/07 Her 2nd affair