I'm sorry things went ballistic on you without your input. I don't for one minute believe that you could have stonewalled the elders. You did the right thing under the circumstances and she suffered consequences of her own actions. Unfortunately your wife blames you for everything, and I guess OM finds that you to be a convenient sacrificial lamb too. You are not responsible for their sins. Too bad they are not adult enough to take responsibility for their own actions. She will continue to cut her nose off to spite her face. Perhaps someday she will she understand all that she stands to lose by her actions.
