He runs hot and cold, but he comes back. So that's not so bad. I think Dom makes a good point. Why not let him know you plan to get in shape. Telling someone is a strong incentive to follow through. You follow through on a change that he wants, and it's easier to ask him to follow through on a change that you want...like attending Retrouvaille.
My daughter logs off on me all the time when we IM. Apparently that isn't considered as rude as hanging up the phone on someone. Or at least, I try not to take it personally. The next night she comes back, and I avoid whatever the taboo topic was.
