It's so hard when you love and trust someone for so long. Then this happens. I felt so demeaned in reading his letters to that girl. Saying he had a bad marriage. But was acting like all was okay with us. We had went through rough patches before this. But at the time of this we were okay. He told her how sexy she was as she sent pictures. He told her he preferred blondes all his life. Not sure how he ended up with a brunette. ( that's the color of my hair) It's like I don;t trust him anymore. It's almost like I can't give my heart completly. But see my heart just feels there is more to this. There was evidence that leads me to believe it. He was calling a girl he use to work with. She called him to. But used *67. When someone uses *67 on his phone to call him it shows up as his number. But he called her, and right after she called him. The calls haven't happened now for like a month. But they may have both got wise.
I don't know your whole situation, I just read this and it kind of struck me as him telling the OW what he thinks she wants to hear and not necessarily how he feels...if that makes any sense.
