I have stopped pursuing my husband 100% I don't ask where he was, or anything else for that matter. I have let him initiate any contact. I am not rude or short at all. I make him lunches before work and nice things like that. But I don't initiate to much beyond that
Exactly what I am doing. Exactly. I don't make him lunch (he drinks meal replacement shakes), but I make sure the girls and he have a good meal ready while I am working, do his laundry with ours, etc. Other than that, he is on his own. I miss doing some of the things for him, and my heart wants to do them, but it can't be all fun and parties at the home he is tearing apart.
Let's hope it works!!!
I, too, struggle with what he told OW (bad marriage, I am cold, bitter, hard, etc) and what was going on in real life. That is a big betrayal for me. HUGS!
