Originally Posted By: Was2sad
Jeanette

Had lost touch with your ongoing situation. Thought that you had sold, bought, and moved on ... etc. What a surprise to find out I am completely WRONG again!!! Dang ... that bites for me.

But ... for you ... hey, you seem to be handling your big gerl self pretty good there. I agree with the dating around an OW thing. Sounds like he feels dating you would be a good thing. Now he just needs to decide it is the future he wants to move toward. The OW will become his dark past in time. You just do what you are doing and give him that time, while letting him know you will not be around forever.

Let him occasionally see the prize, but keep the door locked down tight until he deserves to be let back around. He is thinking about you while he is away. He is. And he should.




Hey W2S !!

Wow...thanks for the encouragment dude! \:\)

Here is how it happened. He was supposed to come by the house a few months ago to help (uh huh) but he CALLED and appoligized that he couldn't make it as he worked the night shift. I said "no problem" you sound tired and should just go back to sleep \:\) I threw out at him...hey! Ready to go on that date yet? (this I said in a joking light matter) He said "sure, I don't see why not, BUT I'm not ready to get involved in a serious committed relationship....Now, Imagine ME with my chin hitting the floor SPEECHLESS! I said uhmmmmm, errrr.....ok go back to sleep. BYE CLICK!

So I let a few days pass and he calls to make arrangements to come by the house....now by this time I'm dying to know what the hell he meant. Soooooooooooo......I asked. He said he doesn't see what it can hurt by us "dating". I said....Ok, just making sure you were not delirious or sleep deprived. HE LAUGHED W2S!!! HE ACTUALLY LAUGHED!

So he comes by a few days later.....things are nice, we are joking and cutting tree limbs yada yada.....predator next door walks by....I mumble something bout husbandstealingwhorebitch under my breathe...hehehehe, he looks at me and said "Oh, thats mature" Then of course....Josh had to chime in but a bit LOUDER \:o whatever.....

So here it comes.....I said, what would you like to do when we go out? He said whatever is fine....Now I am thinking that if him and Fabs are doing so freekin well....why would he even go this far with me....so, me being me, and needing to see the picture on my menu.....I say.....uhm, is Fabs going to be ok with this? Immediate SHUT DOWN! Aack..why did I even ask or mention the word Fabs....so then he mumbles something so I said look hon...Fab is none of my concern, you are, our future is, our home is our life is. But I am not going to be the OW of the OW. I did not like it when it was happening to me.....

Fast forward....he sent me a rather nice email a few weeks ago. Now this is from someone who has sent me 5 emails in the last two years....saying he is NOT SURE if he is ready to DATE just yet. Now this is my fault cuz I left him a nasty email concerning the way he left the yard.....thats a whole nother story. However....he left it open ended. There was no, "cant you see that there is no WE! It was to my thinking, the most coherent email or what have you in 2 years....it made some sort of sense. Sorta.....

When 6 month contract on the house expired 6 months or so ago....I left it up to him to do whatever he wanted. I told him I was tired of dealing with it myself. He has done nothing. We are in some sort of holding pattern here. I do my thing, he does his thing. We are both adults. He knows I love him. He knows I am here. He knows I date. (I am not your conventional stander) He knows I will not be around forever, yet I am going nowhere any time soon. But I do need to have a life.

So.....this is where I am today W2S. Still here. I am flourishing dude!! Life is wonderful right now. I can't describe it, but will say this. Being still and letting go was the best move I ever made. Life will go on one way or the other.

I am having one teeny tiny problem tho.... The inner curiosity in me knows that.
1. He is out of town
2. I know where OW lives
3. I know he is not there....so I could go pay her a visit \:o

Sigh...that would only show my insecurity. BLECH! But really, I'm not insecure.....I'm just curious \:\)

So, I thot it best to give him his space. He knows the deal. All this man has to do is pick up the phone.

So thats it, and Thank you W2S...LOL, see what happens when we think??

Jeanette

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