no contact......how do you survive.....

[Dr.mom]

And please, newbies, don't forget. NO CONTACT will NOT give your spouse the wrong idea, that you too have walked away from the marriage.

I personally know how hard this was for me. I thought if I let go, he would be totally happy and forget all about me and all would be lost. He would finally get what he wanted, me out of his hair, and agreeing to get a divorce.

It made me physically ill to try and let go.

Yes, a few months later, I still "zing" when I see a sporadic email message from him. But I am able to read "Alien speak", and it does not bother me as such. I also have NO desire to contact him (although I still long for reconciliation and still stand for my marriage).

It DOES get easier.

I also let go of the rope, totally. Closed my eyes and said "SO let it be done" and willed myself to take whatever journey this divorce would take me through (After 4 months of WAH being adamant that he was "done" and really really really wanted a divorce). I let go of the rope.

NOTHING HAPPENED.

A week went by, I assumed I was going to get served papers any day.

NOTHING HAPPENED.

A month has gone by.

NOTHING HAPPENED.

Except I feel empowered. He's out there working out his demons.

Wish I could have done this at the beginning!!!!!! But, we all get there at our own paces!