when I said they were normal, I was thinking in terms of my friend who is a therapist and what she has told me. she told me when it was becoming clear that h and i were headed for separation, that it can be a good thing for some couples. she recommends it for some of her clients...it can actually speed reconciliation along in some cases. they have interaction only when she is present for a bit, then slowly rebuild to times when she isn't with them. so yeah, a lot of separations take place with counseling in place.
my situation isn't like that, of course. our mc stopped seeing us as a couple when it became clear that H wasn't going to stop seeing ow. so when we separated, no mc in place. which my friend was concerned about, much harder for things to work out w/o that neutral 3rd party involvment.
big difference, too, when divorce is filed. different kind of separation. sucky. I'm sorry.
Last edited by morgan; 10/22/0711:30 PM.
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