i appreciate the attempts :-)
nope, wife is strongly ANTI-counsellor, or anything like that (see other "impossible" thread :-/

Many moons ago, she did one token by-herself session with an MC. never did any of his suggestions, or talk to him again.

I havent tried M/R talks for quite a while, btw. hence probably why the improvement in our recent stuff.
I was hoping that, if I tried to have a talk about improving "communication" between us, it wouldnt flag the anti-R defenses.
Nope.

Was bad timing, too. She was still kinda pissy about the underlying issue. If she wasnt.. she MIGHT have been more receptive to what I was saying. Sadly, though, it was because of the underlying issue, that I felt I had to push to "talk now".

gah. well, that was a(nother) bad choice on my part, i guess.

PS: I was surprised by your statement that M/R talks were "normal" in a separation situation.
maybe you mean a "controlled separation" or similar.

our "separation", is; "there's a divorce that she filed, that is still pending. We're living separately" \:\(

Last edited by Dom R; 10/22/07 11:16 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle