Was2sad, W has already tried to rewrite the M. She said that she knew on the altar 22 years ago that it was a mistake. Has said many other things that are too many to write here. This was over 2 months ago when all this came out in therapy with our first worthless C. Since I started DBing at the beginning of sept, things have changed alot. The tension isn't nearly as thick as it has been. She has begun to start conversations with me out of the blue. She tells me about what is going on with her at work. Still don't know what she wants to do, but I have time on my side. I have a C session on friday with a soulution based therapist, actually we are both seeing him individually. Hope to find out some of W's thoughts then. Still think that the W is afraid to leave b/c she has doubts. Interesting, my S came home from college for the weekend and wants to ask me about the big D. I told him that I would be as honest as I could. He wanted to know what really happens in D. I told him that in our state, (PA) you have 2 years to wait before D becomes final. Told him what W wants in petition, alimony, (pre)alimony, and that she has no means of support. This is all BS b/c, she makes more money than me, the pre alimony is more for custody issues and the like in case she would have to move out and take care of minor children, (both my kids are in college and over 18), and she has an executive job that pays almost double what I make. S is studying psychology, and he just says that his mom is acting on emotion and she doesnt know what she wants. S also said that he doesn't think that it is fair to D if only one wants it. I told him that that is the way it is today. No matter what the LBS wants, the D goes through. W's L put her up to all this, and unfortunately, my L says that hers is a shark, and won't be satisfied until I am out on the street, with nothing left. So much for my W telling me that she wanted this to amiable and 50/50. Thats ok. If it comes to D, I am in a better position to keep the house, and get alimony than my W.
