Lets try thing again!!!!

[sandi2]

Its very hard, because this women I know he can't see as she is far away, but you know i am sure she is looking for something to, as her h works away from home for long periods of time.

That's not the point, limbo. The point is that you don't want him to contact her and that should be reason enough. If it was turned the other way around and you were contacting OM and your H asked you to stop......that would be reason enough. He should see it that way....and if he doesn't....then that should tell you all you need to know. If he doesn't truly know the harm in it...then ask him how he would feel if it was the other way around. If he says he would not mind it if you had a male friend, then I think I would be tempted to tell him that if that was the case, I could find one. No.....on second thought, don't do that.

I find it hard to believe that the man truly doesn't see the harm in it after you nearly broke up over an A! It sounds like a lame excuse to me. Anybody that is married should have enough sense to know that it is wrong to have "friends" that are of the opposite sex and expecially when the S is not included in that friendship. I wonder if the OM's H knows about their friendship. That is the red flag right there! When the S is not included or even knows about the "friend".....then I would get suspicious real quick! I know I'm old fashion.....but human nature hasn't changed. You better take it as a warning, IHMO, that he is up to his old tricks.

I wonder if he is having a MLC. The bike is what made me wonder. Forty something.....women....now a bike! Is there other things that might indicate he is having a MLC? Maybe you told us at the beginning of your thread, if so, sorry that I can't remember. I should have looked back first.

I sure hate it sweetie, but you should not have to put up with this. Have you thought about contacting the woman yourself? Maybe she would let you know how she feels toward your H and if it is just friendship or not.