Thank you all!! I knew you would understand. My best friend doesn't get it so I can't even talk to her about it. My IC is wonderful and I made an appointment with her later in the week...What I think I am hearing from all of you is not to discuss my feelings with H...just be patient. As far as kickboxing...that would work and I am going to look into it! I just wish it wasn't so hard...and that H would have never done this...UGH, I never had to worry about trust before and now I get a pit in my stomach if he is 15 minutes late from work...