Because I am so analytical, I'm still obsessing about the 'how', 'when' and 'why' of my blunders of the past few years.
Heh. I have this exact same problem. (Must be some sort IT personality trait, lol.)
I had to think a minute on why I felt you were coming across hostile. I believe it was your arguing point-by-point about how your actions were misinterpreted. (Incidentally, I used to do this, to...) Anyway, not sure what my point is, but I wonder if your XW occasionally has the same kind of incorrect assumptions? In which case, perhaps you could approach these types of conversations differently? No real point...just thinking out loud...
Wow, I would have been terrified to go in that house, let alone in the bathroom again. (Obviously you weren't comfortable either!) Just the thought of having that restraining order hanging around...ugh... Is there any way she could bring your son to your place when he has homework trouble? Or some other sort of neutral arrangement?
And yes, I agree, she was seeing if you were still interested. I'd say you got her attention--which means continue to stay reserved.
