If she did nothing differently I'd probably just avoid her as much as I could and continue to resent her until I finally decided I've had enough and left.
your words and motivations seem all over the map.
From this latest post of yours: Sounds like you're done working. In which case... why are you trying so hard to help her separate, then? Is it really so that YOU can move on, and find someone else?
If not: then let your actions match your words... and simply ignore her. If she wants to move out, then she'll move out, and you'll still get that "time to yourself", that you claim you want.
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You can say that she might not go if she had to do 100% of the effort. Sorry, she will.
That may be true. There's also a question of how long she would stay separate, if she has to do that, vs if she has the relatively comfy situation.
the more comfy you help her to make it, the longer she will stay away.
Bottom line: I dont think she knows what she wants, and I dont think YOU know what you want, either. You cant seem to decide, if you want to keep trying to work on your marriage, or quit. You cant decide if you want her to stay around, or to get out of your life so you can have more free time to play around.
I think you should go sit somewhere and figure that out. Then come back and post what you have decided
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
