well, might work for others... Unfortunately, my situation is that my W is waaay control-phobic. Commonly complains "You're TRYING TO CONTROL ME!!"
The biggest reason she's mad at me now, ironically.. is that I ended up doing something a quater like you describe; I wouldnt tell her about something, until we talked for a while about "communication issues" between us first.
Now.. even though the "talk" itself, and the underlying trigger issue is somewhat fading away... She resents me, even more than the original problem, for holding the information over her head to get her to talk
It is said that "women like their 'man' to be strong", etc.
My wife is not one of those women.
Last edited by Dom R; 10/22/0710:06 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
