Hardly faking it anymore: Puddle's third thread

[Heimlich]

I'm too tired to do the semantics of what's a date versus what's not a date. Though I do think there is a difference between "hey, let's meet for beer/coffee and talk" (with kindof the underlying/back of mind thought, might be something here, let's find out) versus a DATE, "OMG, he/she is soooo cute. I'm wearing my good panties/non tidy whities just in case I make a bad decision." Know what I mean?

Anyway, if you want to meet for coffee or beer, I honestly see nothing wrong with it. My only concern without a separation agreement is that IF your H decides to get nasty, that leaves you open to suspicion and you could get screwed. That make sense?

Also, don't see anything wrong with you talking to H about the separation prior to mediation. Again, he's just been so twitchy lately it seems that it could devolve into pointless arguing quickly. Good that he apologized for being rude. That's a nice change of pace for him.

BD