"Truth is, I went to my new friend's house for pizza and to watch Borat. Couldn't really say that."
Why not? Sounds like the perfect thing to say to me...
Very surprised to hear you say this OT. Tell me why you think it would be perfect.
The reason I didn't was primarily cause my children were in the room (and MIL and BIL and his wife) and they were all sitting around the table and none of them know I am dating. W, however, has been told three times I am dating, and I don't see how telling her the particulars of who and when and how and how often and how intimate, etc. does anyone any good.
OT, curious about one other ting. My 10-year anniversary is Nov. 8th. Planning on doing nada. Your thoughts please?
Nomo
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
OT, curious about one other ting. My 10-year anniversary is Nov. 8th. Planning on doing nada. Your thoughts please?
Even though you didn't ask me, Nomo, I'll throw in my opinion that you shouldn't do anything. My feelings on these situations now is this: buy a card (not a real mushy one; maybe a fairly neutral or blank Anniversary card). Write a nice message in it that stays clear of any overtly pursuing, yet says something about how you've valued the years spent together and what that has brought you (something like that). Then... keep it and don't give it to her UNLESS she gives you something first. If she doesn't, I'd toss it afterwards. Like the Boy Scouts motto says: "Be Prepared!"
Again, just my opinion. Still curious about what others such as OT, Just Me, etc, think.
I've had similar thoughts over the past few months. What is it about me that's so unlikable that my W would rather go solo/start over with someone else rather than see if we have what it takes to go the distance together?
I've come to the conclusion that I'm a damn fine man and that she's too scared, immature, hurt, selfish (whatever) to honestly give it a try -- at least at the moment. Her loss. Your W's loss.
Carry on with carrying on, Nomo. If you're a beer fan, try the Flying Saucer. 50/60 on tap, another 100 in bottles. They also have some sort of fried jalapeno popper or something that's damn tasty.
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My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
If you're a beer fan, try the Flying Saucer. 50/60 on tap, another 100 in bottles. They also have some sort of fried jalapeno popper or something that's damn tasty.
Been there. Done that.
Nomo
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
It sounded like a good thing to say because it is short, direct, and honest.
But, I didn't understand others were in the room. Certainly it was a good idea not to spring it on the kids.
Anyway, with regard to your anniversary, I'd suggest you do nothing, not even the backup card. IF she initiates something, you can always react spontaneously, authentically, and sincerely, whatever that means at the time.
A distant, removed, anniversary card that does nothing other than to highlight the gaping wound in your lives by its contrast with what an anniversary card should be isn't really going to be good for anyone.
Very surprised to hear you say this OT. Tell me why you think it would be perfect.
