Hey there, I can see how you feel, looking at a despotent person and you almost want to scream "breath, do something! don't just sit there!" my H is a zombie when he's home, mostly because he has the schedule from hell.
Try your darnest not to highlight what you dont' like when you see her, maybe you went there with all sorts of expectations, I try to keep mine at a bare minimun.
Tomorrow is a new day, and it can be better. Wishing you best of luck friend.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.