WAW1978-Part 5

[Heimlich]

It's the Texas heat.

Glad you had a good time, WAW. 30 bars, I am officially envious.

I'm with GD. H still trying to control you because he's not chanaged at all. The fact that you're still willing to entertain being with him is a credit to your desire to save your M and the seriousness with which you take that committment. 10 years from now, you'll be able to say you tried. Your H will say the same thing, but it'll be continued self-delusion.

BD

[Not Much Left]

We're just really cool in Texas
Ahhh, there is that control thing again. Here's a thought, dont let anyone control *you* and I guarantee guys who do this will back down or your better off without them. Spoken by a control freak in every sense of the word, so I think I have some credibility on this one. Not something I am proud of, but if W would have "filled the void" between us with something other than "I dont know", Control / Pushy CVA would not have filled that emptiness. Is that what your H did WAW or no?

C

[waw1978]

I was a push over CVA. I let H get away with a lot of his negative behaviors. More so because I was *trying* to be what he wanted me to be. Maybe a little different than your sitch. But I certainly did not have the backbone to draw boundaries then. In the beginning of this whole thing I think I had some "I don't know" moments but the more I thought about things it became clear what changes I needed from H to be happy in M. But I had already decided to try to work on the M at that point.

WAW the pushover is gone! No more controlling men. I think I am strong enough now to resist falling into that trap again!

[Not Much Left]

Cool

[PMA_Baby!]

U go girl! it's time to step it up. I'll buy a round of GAL and 180's for everybody.

Keep it up everybody. I have finally accepted my sitch as well. It sucks but I dont have a choice. If they want to b free then so b it. Like the Chinese saying goes "be careful what u ask for..." On Sat. I went to the required "children first class" for IL state. Was tough but need to step up my role as father before anything else.

I am going to a costume party this sat w some friends. A buddy and I r dressing as Hanz and Franz from SNL. Should be fun. The hotties better watch out. RUFFFFF!

God Speed, Broken

[waw1978]

BM07

That is too cool! Have fun "Pumping in people up" in your best Austrian accent.

[PMA_Baby!]

thnx. I'll try. I found this link on youtube as inspiration.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=nlRs_WeQmnM


Have fun being the ladybug at your parties. Dont get too buzzed.
Ha I kill me! Says Alf - I cant believe I quoted Alf. I'm getting old lol.

Broke as a joke! Not yet but gettin there. the d isnt over yet

[chicki]

Whats up WAW??

Hey, remember I told you how when H wnet to Boston and came back w/ Cheers tshirts and wouldnt give me at least one?

Well, read up on my latest...when I told him about you a few days later he gave methe shirt w/ out me asking for it....

How are you?

[Not Much Left]

Hey WAW, just checking in.

[waw1978]

Hey Chicki & CVA

Knew it wouldn’t be long before I would be back here for help with my sitch. LOL isn’t that always the way?

You were are all right on the money here with my H just trying to control the situation. He was playing hardball over the weekend pushing for a formal separation agreement etc. Tonight was the night we were supposed to start the process of divvying our things up and now wants to talk about “US”.

So again, he is just being reactionary because I just acted “as-if” to his request for immediate formal separation and just validated that if that’s what he wanted I would agree to it. Help me out here. We are meeting tonight, we are both supposed to have itemized lists of what is most important to us etc. Should I still make a point of going ahead with this to show him that I will not be manipulated? At this point I am all for just getting the separation going to make him realize (not punish) that this is serious, game over the end unless he gets his act together and goes to MC & IC. I can’t make him…he has to go himself so I am not worrying about him anymore. Just worrying about myself and I need to get on with my life without his manipulating controlling ways.